How to Ask for Money as a Birthday Gift

By Ali + Julie on 10 Jan 2023

Asking for money doesn't have to be awkward.

Don’t want fifty vases and hate the waste of unwanted gifts? Asking for money as a gift might feel uncomfortable or impersonal, but it can actually be a practical and thoughtful way to ensure you get exactly what you want or need. And surprisingly, we've found that a lot of givers actually prefer it!

Here's the thing to making it as good for the giver as for you﹣SHARE THE DETAILS OF YOUR GRATITUDE FOR THE GIFT AND SENTIMENT WITH THEM BEFORE AND AFTER. How do you do that? Explain what you're excited to receive/experience. Show gratitude and excitement over the gift you've received, how you felt, that you loved the messages and all the love that came with it.

When it comes to milestone birthdays, gathering contributions from friends and family can help create a meaningful and valuable gift. So, let's explore the art of asking for money for a gift and whilst we're at it, we'll introduce you to GroupTogether﹣a fantastic platform used by more than 1 million people to take the awkwardness out of asking for money. GroupTogether makes it nice with a group card that everyone can personalise with beautiful messages as well as a fun to use experience.

The Benefit of Asking for Money:
Before diving into the specifics of how to ask for money for a gift, it's important to understand the numerous advantages of this approach. When you request money as a gift, you are able to choose what you truly desire or need, eliminating the risk of receiving duplicate or unwanted items. Furthermore, it offers the flexibility to save up for more expensive gifts or experiences that might be beyond an individual's budget.

How to Get Started:
When reaching out to friends, family, and other potential contributors it's important to explain your intentions clearly and honestly. Express the advantages of pooling funds to purchase a meaningful gift, highlighting that you will be able to choose something you truly want. Emphasise that the amount contributed is entirely voluntary and any contribution is appreciated.

What are the Right Words:
Here are three sample wordings you can use when asking people to contribute to a gift for yourself:

  1. Appreciative and humble

    "Hi friends, I wanted to reach out to you all about my upcoming birthday. Instead of receiving individual gifts, I would be incredibly grateful if you could contribute towards a special gift for myself. Your generosity and support would mean the world to me, and I would cherish the thought and effort behind it. If you're interested in contributing (no pressure or obligation at all), here’s a link to the card and gift [add GroupTogether link here]."

  2. Excitement and inclusion

    "Hey everyone! So, my birthday is just around the corner. Instead of scrambling for gifts, I thought it would be incredible if you all chipped in and got me something I've had my eye on [maybe insert the gift here]. I know it sounds a bit unconventional, but trust me, I’ll LOVE it. If you're interested in contributing (no pressure or obligation at all), here’s a link to the card and gift [add GroupTogether link here]. Looking forward to celebrating together.

  3. Sharing a dream
    "Hello, lovely friends! As you know, my birthday is coming up, and I have a big dream I'd love to turn into reality. Rather than traditional gifts, I'm reaching out to ask if you would consider contributing towards making my dream come true / my bucket list. Your support would mean so much to me and help me take a step closer to achieving something truly special. If you're interested in contributing (no pressure or obligation at all), here’s a link to the card and gift [add GroupTogether link here]."

Remember, it's essential to approach these requests with humility and gratitude. Express your appreciation for their willingness to contribute and emphasise that their participation is entirely voluntary.

Write a Funny Poem to Break the Ice:
Writing a poem can be an easy way to take the awkwardness out of asking for money. For example:

"Hey there, my friends, another year's passed,
And this birthday, I've got a small ask.
No need for gadgets or fancy things,
Just a little moolah to make my heart sing.
Forget the presents that clutter the shelf,
A cash-filled card will bring joy and wealth!"


"Hey pals, it's that time of year,
My birthday's approaching, so lend an ear.
No need for presents that gather dust,
Just some cold hard cash, if you must.
Help a buddy out, don't be shy,
A little green to make me fly high!"

Introducing GroupTogether:
GroupTogether is an excellent platform that simplifies the process of collecting money for group gifts. It eliminates the hassle of chasing people for contributions and managing cash or checks.

Here's how it works:

  1. Start a collection in less than 2 minutes and invite others to contribute.
  2. Use the raised funds to purchase a gift(s). Note: Australian customers can use it free when you use the money to buy gift cards from GroupTogether's range or withdraw the funds for a tiny fee (about 2.7%).
  3. Enter the recipient's details and we will send them the gift and group card if you have organised one.

FYI: GroupTogether is an Australian, female-founded startup that's also available in the US.

A Great Experience for All:
GroupTogether has been purpose-built to make it easy for everyone (recipients, contributors, and organisers). We understand that asking for contributions can be awkward and contributors may feel uneasy if things don't look 'right.' It's great, then, that the GroupTogether experience is fun and stylish for friends to use to chip in and sign the card.

Here's a quick snapshot of it all:

Invite friends and colleagues with an email to write a message on the card with the option of chipping in for a gift.

email invite

Prefer to send the invites yourself? Share the link to your card and collection in your group chat :)

Share link in chat

At the end, you will receive the beautiful group card with all the lovely messages as well as your gift.

group card

Tips For Maximising Contributions:
To ensure a successful group gift, consider the following tips:

  • Start Early: Give contributors ample time to contribute. Initiate the process at least a month in advance to allow people to plan and budget accordingly. If you send out invitations, make sure to include your GroupTogether link. You can also share your GroupTogether link in a text message or in a group chat.
  • Personalise the Experience: Make the process more engaging by sharing anecdotes or stories, and how the gift will bring joy and meaning to your life.
  • Encourage Sharing: Encourage contributors to spread the word to others who may want to participate, maximising the number of people involved.
  • Express Gratitude: Thank each contributor personally and express your appreciation for their generosity. A simple thank-you note or email can go a long way in fostering goodwill and encouraging future participation.
  • Send a Thank You: GroupTogether makes it easy for you to say thanks. Just write your thank you message and GroupTogether sends it to everyone who chipped in. Done!

Asking for money as a gift doesn't have to be awkward or impersonal. When you share the extent of your gratitude for your gift and use the right words when you ask, it's a much easier process for all. Thankfully GroupTogether takes away all the hassle and makes it effortless for everyone to contribute. Nice!

Organise the perfect birthday gift with GroupTogether

If you're organising a group gift for a milestone birthday, why not take all the hassle out of the process by using GroupTogether. Set up a collection in 2 minutes and then share with the rest of your group.

Ali Julie Square

Ali + Julie

Co-Founders, GroupTogether

Life’s busy. That’s why we’re here to make it easy for you to collect money from a group. Less wasted time, less packaging waste, and spending a little less but giving a lot better!

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